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National Handwriting Day

In addition to being National Pie Day (here’s how to celebrate—26 Pie and Tart Recipes), today is also National Handwriting Day. So we thought we’d share a few ways to celebrate this holiday as well. First, find out what your handwriting says about you. Whether your script leans to the left or right, and whether you remember to cross your […]

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Five Battles That Aren’t Worth Fighting With Teenagers, and Five That Are

A highly subjective list, from this mother of three boys: It is not worth fighting over… 1) Wearing a winter coat instead of that flimsy springlike thing, even though it is 25 degrees. 2) Rearranging his room so it’s more aesthetically pleasing to you. 3) Cutting his hair in a way that’s more aesthetically pleasing to you. 4) The ability […]

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How to Explain Why Mommy and Daddy Don’t Live Together Anymore: Blog It

I think the phrase we’re supposed to use to describe what happens when a blogger publicly reveals the most intimate details of her personal life is: “full disclosure.” But how do you describe the urge that prompted the revelation? A few days ago, readers of the popular mommy blog at Dooce.com learned that blogger Heather Armstrong and her husband (previously […]

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Manicures, Anyone? (How to Get Rid of a Tagalong Boyfriend)

A reader named idlemusings wrote to say it bothers her that one of her girlfriends always asks, before the two of them spend time together, if it’s OK for her boyfriend to tag along. “While we’ve all known each other for many years and I enjoy his company, sometimes I just want some girl time,” idlemusings wrote. “How do I […]

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‘Would It Kill You to Stop Doing That?’

I had the pleasure last week of interviewing etiquette maven Henry Alford, whose new book title is a question we’ve all wanted to ask: “Would It Kill You to Stop Doing That?” Henry’s focus is of particular interest to me because Real Simple’s readers, I told him, rarely ask how to improve their own manners; they’re typically more concerned about […]

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Jackie Mitchard on How Negativity Breaks Hearts

About two years ago, the bombastic son of a beloved pal came onto my Facebook page extolling how presidential new Massachusetts senator Scott Brown would be. Along with several friends, I retorted that having been an underwear model would be devastating for a woman candidate. “Not so!” he cried. “Sex sells!” When I wouldn’t back down, this fellow—not a child, […]

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Shauna James Ahern on Just Clicking Delete

It’s more than offhand comments on Twitter or raging emails. It’s the systematic way that cruel comments come into my website inbox with every single post. When I posted the recipe for soft pretzels, within moments I received the comment: “I hope you choke on your own pretzels and die, you bitch.” Every day, there is some nasty, vituperative comment […]

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Anybody Up for #BeNiceDecade?

Thank you, everybody, for weighing in during Real Simple’s Be Nice on the Internet Week with so many excellent suggestions about how to improve civility online.  It’s hard to pick favorites from among your tweets, email messages and comments, but here are a few of your tips I can’t resist repeating: On Twitter, reader @EtiquettePage asked: “Are you using your […]

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Joanna Goddard on Realizing Everyone Gets Negative Comments

A few years ago, I had just gotten engaged and posted our engagement photos on my blog. A few days later, I got a comment saying, “You and Alex will last five years, tops.” It was such an odd comment—and so out of the blue—that it definitely upset me (so much so that I called my mom!). But when Tina Fey […]

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Jodi Picoult on Reviewers Who Get Personal

I’m a writer. I’ve been one for 20 years. So you think I’d be used to criticism. But the Internet has opened up a whole new can of nastiness. It’s why I stopped reading Amazon reviews (why bother, when people criticize a book that they admit they haven’t even bothered to read…but don’t like the premise of the storyline?). The […]

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