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‘Would It Kill You to Stop Doing That?’

I had the pleasure last week of interviewing etiquette maven Henry Alford, whose new book title is a question we’ve all wanted to ask: “Would It Kill You to Stop Doing That?” Henry’s focus is of particular interest to me because Real Simple’s readers, I told him, rarely ask how to improve their own manners; they’re typically more concerned about […]

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Jackie Mitchard on How Negativity Breaks Hearts

About two years ago, the bombastic son of a beloved pal came onto my Facebook page extolling how presidential new Massachusetts senator Scott Brown would be. Along with several friends, I retorted that having been an underwear model would be devastating for a woman candidate. “Not so!” he cried. “Sex sells!” When I wouldn’t back down, this fellow—not a child, […]

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Shauna James Ahern on Just Clicking Delete

It’s more than offhand comments on Twitter or raging emails. It’s the systematic way that cruel comments come into my website inbox with every single post. When I posted the recipe for soft pretzels, within moments I received the comment: “I hope you choke on your own pretzels and die, you bitch.” Every day, there is some nasty, vituperative comment […]

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Anybody Up for #BeNiceDecade?

Thank you, everybody, for weighing in during Real Simple’s Be Nice on the Internet Week with so many excellent suggestions about how to improve civility online.  It’s hard to pick favorites from among your tweets, email messages and comments, but here are a few of your tips I can’t resist repeating: On Twitter, reader @EtiquettePage asked: “Are you using your […]

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Joanna Goddard on Realizing Everyone Gets Negative Comments

A few years ago, I had just gotten engaged and posted our engagement photos on my blog. A few days later, I got a comment saying, “You and Alex will last five years, tops.” It was such an odd comment—and so out of the blue—that it definitely upset me (so much so that I called my mom!). But when Tina Fey […]

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Jodi Picoult on Reviewers Who Get Personal

I’m a writer. I’ve been one for 20 years. So you think I’d be used to criticism. But the Internet has opened up a whole new can of nastiness. It’s why I stopped reading Amazon reviews (why bother, when people criticize a book that they admit they haven’t even bothered to read…but don’t like the premise of the storyline?). The […]

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#BeNiceWeek: Is Your Cell Phone a Menace to Society?

The last public place you want to hear your cell phone ringing is in a concert hall, where the finely tuned acoustics will amplify  your mistake. But that’s exactly what happened at a New York Philharmonic concert a couple of nights ago, when a marimba ring tone suddenly began to compete with Mahler’s Ninth Symphony near the end of the […]

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The Nicest Place on the Internet

We’re so excited by the response we’ve gotten from all of you regarding our Be Nice on the Internet Week, so we wanted to share a great site that one of our Facebook fans tipped us off to. It’s called The Nicest Place on the Internet. And it’s basically a stream of videos of people hugging their computers. Literally, the […]

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Gail Simmons on Handling Negative Responses Online

“During the first season of Top Chef, I was horrified when I read the blogs and online forums about our show—forget what people said about the show content itself, it was the personal attacks on us that really shocked me. Viewers commented on everything from the size of my ears to the size of my bust and my waistband. It […]

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Kindness Online Starts With You (and We’re Here to Help)

Have you ever had someone write something horrible online that was to you, for you, or about you? You know, the sort of thing that most people (either out of a sense of politeness or sheer cowardice) would not say to your face, but have no problem saying online, for all the world to see? Yes, we’ve all read about […]

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