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A Nice Problem to Have: Both Families Want to Pay for the Wedding

This week’s etiquette question comes from a reader named Mike66, who is getting married – congratulations! – and already finds himself in the middle of a skirmish between the in laws over cash. But it’s not the usual fight over who has to pay… In this case, the bride’s family was planning to foot the bill for the wedding and reception. […]

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Modern Manners: OMG, Betty Got Fat!

In last night’s new episode of Mad Men, Betty Draper faced a thyroid cancer scare – but the real tragedy, everyone on the show agreed, was that she had gotten fat. Betty’s mother-in-law came to visit and recommended “diet pills.” And after the doctor’s office called to say the lump on Betty’s thyroid was benign, the mother of three didn’t […]

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Bad Manners: Using Twitter to Hound People

Director Spike Lee caused a stir this week by gossiping on the Internet. Lee re-tweeted to his 250,000 Twitter followers a Florida address purportedly belonging to a man who last month shot and killed a teenage boy who was wearing a hoodie, an incident that sparked nationwide outrage. Unfortunately, Lee re-tweeted the wrong address. As a result, “A couple who […]

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Girls Only: Can You Exclude Your Son in Law?

It’s perfectly natural to want to spend “alone” time with your daughter once in a while. But how can you do it without hurting your son in law’s feelings? A reader named Kathyee, who read about the topic in my “Modern Manners” column in Real Simple, wrote yesterday to offer a few tips: “In regards to the mom who wants […]

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What Your Babysitter is Thinking

In this month’s issue of Real Simple, a reader wrote to say that her friend told her to find her own babysitter, instead of sharing. “You said this person was not being a true friend, and I completely disagree,” writes Gracie1220. “I am a babysitter,” Gracie1220 writes. “I have worked with children for ten years, and I was a preschool […]

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Weigh In: Who Should Get the Wedding China?

A young mother dies when her son is 6. She had no sisters, so her brother’s wife packs away her wedding china. Thirty years later, after the boy is grown and married, the china reappears, causing problems. Here’s why: “After my husband’s mother died when he was six, (his aunt) held it for 30 years until she handed it down […]

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Can an Interest in Pinterest Get You Sued?

I like to pin pretty pictures on my online bulletin boards as much as the next Pinterest user.  And I love it when people “like” my choices or repin them. But not everyone feels the same way. A recent article in the Wall Street Journal raised the question of whether you can get into trouble for pinning images you don’t […]

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The New Rules for Your Cell Phone at Work

When your cell phone accompanies you to the office, it’s no longer a toy. Make sure it acts like a grownup and doesn’t distract others from work. That’s a message we hear frequently nowadays, as people try to figure out how to politely integrate their new technology into the workplace. But what constitutes good manners? In a recent story in […]

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What If One Friend Has Less Money Than the Others?

Say you plan – and pre-pay – a friends’ weekend getaway only to learn at the last minute that one person can’t afford to go. “Save me from being unduly rude!” wrote reader SJaneParker, who hopes she won’t be left footing the bill. Here’s the setup: “I and another close friend took on the task (happily) of organizing a college […]

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Wedding Invitations: Who’s on Your Guest List?

This week’s etiquette dilemma comes from a reader named LaneyDunn, who is planning an out of town wedding. She wrote: “Please help! I need some direction about how to be tactful with my wedding invitations… “We are having a small wedding in Pennsylvania, though my fiance and I met and live in Charleston, South Carolina,” LaneyDunn wrote, adding that a […]

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