more about: etiquette

Your Kid Saw Porn Online. Now What?

With more kids browsing the Internet at younger ages, an article today’s New York Times warns:  “Your child is going to look at porn at some point. It’s inevitable.”  Now what? That’s the opinion of Elizabeth Schroeder, who is executive director of a sex-education organization based at Rutgers University in New Jersey. Kids have laptops, smart phones,  computers and other electronic […]

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Rude Kids: How to (Politely) Put a Stop to It

This week’s question comes from a reader named Jill, who is getting increasingly exasperated by the rude behavior of one of the children in her carpool. “Everyone always says ‘it takes a village,’ yet what do you do as a parent when someone else’s child is perpetually rude to you?” Jill wrote. By rude, Jill means: “rude at your house […]

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Give Me That Babysitter, I Saw Her First!

“Dear Michelle: I complete disagree with your column saying a friend is wrong for not sharing a babysitter. NO WAY! It’s hard enough to find a reliable available sitter,” wrote a reader named JACM1234. “Add to that friends homing in on the same sitter, and we’ve found ourselves hosed when we really needed a sitter,” JACM1234 wrote. “True friends understand […]

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How to Make Your Co-Workers Like You

The same bad behavior that got you in trouble at home when you were a kid—taking credit for something your brother did, saying no reflexively, a messy room—can cause problems with your co-workers at the office. A few days ago, a story in the Wall Street Journal listed the most common behaviors that make co-workers dislike you. They include: 1. […]

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Oversharing: When Couples Tweet Too Much

Singer Rosanne Cash got in trouble recently for tweeting that her husband was napping. “Don’t’ tell people I’m taking a nap!” he said, really annoyed. That story and others, reported today in the New York Times, describes a modern etiquette problem that can derail romance: oversharing. Before the days of Facebook and Twitter and Tumblr, it wasn’t so easy to blithely […]

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How to Correct a Co-Worker’s Grammar

How do you deal with co-workers who use bad grammar? This week’s etiquette question comes from a reader named Jbala17, who wonders why her subtle attempts to correct her colleagues have gotten her nowhere. “These are educated people,” Jbala17, wrote. “I have tried to re-word their statements using proper grammar and then repeat them back to them, to no avail. […]

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Neighbors’ Laundry Left in the Machine…Again. Now What?

This week’s etiquette question comes from a reader named Kathleyn, who lives in a small apartment building where neighbors often forget to retrieve clothes from the shared, coin-op laundry machine in the basement. “Sometimes I wait hours, even days, for the machine to be free,” Kathleyn writes. “Is it OK,to take their clothes out, after a certain amount of time […]

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Email Wedding Invitations: ‘Reply All’ to RSVP?

More and more people are skipping paper wedding invitations to send email instead. A new article (written by one of my students at Columbia University) describes the trend: “There are good reasons a growing number of couples go digital when they send wedding invitations: It saves money, reduces your carbon footprint and can efficiently reach friends scattered around the world,” […]

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No One Offered to Throw a Shower? Plan Your Own

A couple of readers have said they disagree (thanks for writing, ngarner29 and ynwa098) with my opinion that it’s perfectly fine to throw your own party to celebrate your wedding or new baby: ynwa098: I am simply stunned by your statement in the April issue of Real Simple that it’s appropriate to throw your own shower. This is NEVER appropriate, […]

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Can Men and Women Be Friends Without ‘the Sex Part’ Getting in the Way?

A few of us at Real Simple were recently having a discussion about whether heterosexual men and women can ever be “just friends.”  Our conclusion? We couldn’t reach one. Some editors thought it was perfectly normal in a modern, enlightened world for men and women to be pals. Others, perhaps more cynical, quoted the famous line from ”When  Harry Met […]

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