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How Do Your Neighbors Drive You Crazy?
Posted on Jun 26, 2007 6:10:31 PM  |  By SimplyStatedAdmin

Not all neighbors are like Mr. Rogers — which is why fences and noise ordinances were invented. While you want to have a good rapport with the folks next door and down the street, you may not have a lot in common with them (including the same definition of loud).


Have nightmare neighbors? Share your unneighborly neighbor story or offer advice by posting a comment, below.



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My neighbor's 15yr old son plays the drums for several hours EVERY DAY in a shed in his yard. The shed is very close to my house. It's the most ridiculously loud thing I've ever heard. I talked to the kid's dad and he told me that it wasn't bothering anyone else but me. Basically, he told me to "get over it". I'm not an unreasonable person. In fact, I play guitar and drums and I can guarantee that I will never wake them up from a nap or ruin a movie that they are watching, because I play my instruments IN MY FREAKING HOUSE at a reasonable volume. When I play with my band, we play at a cheap rehearsal space, far away from any residential homes. Anyway, to top it off, they also have the most annoying yappy dog I have ever heard in my life. They leave it outside in the yard all day long just yapping away. Due to my neighbor's less than understanding approach, I've been trying to deal with this via local government, but no one seems to care. I've talked to several other neighbors about this, and the noise is driving them crazy too. Any suggestions?

Posted by: Loaf| July 31, 2009 at 02:13 PM




I have a Neighbor who is a selfish pig! Nice to your face when he meets you, nasty behind your back. First, they own a hundred cars...no problem...I'm glad that they are able to afford this. However, they seem to think that since they have so many cars, it means that they can park WHERE they PLEASE. In front of your house, on your lawn, whereever the mood takes them. Holler at them-YOU are being unreasonable, and disrespectful!
Next, their duaghters are the QUEENS of the world! They are allowed to play their CD's at high volume. Scream and yell like wild apes outside with their friends late at night when people try yo sleep.

My neighbor also has a drainpipe located right smack near my house (I live in a townhouse) This drainpipe looks like it is embedded in the ground. When it rains, we get water soaking thru our wall. When we tell them about this..their reaction is "So you think we at at fault" Yes, we reply. "Welll, I don't think so" So you think you can contact authorities to fix the problem? FORGET IT!! Your only choice is to take them to small claims court with lawyer fees to boot NO ONE WILL HELP!! I'm tired of these pig bozos! any way to get rid of them?

Posted by: G-Girl| June 07, 2009 at 02:26 PM




This neighbor of mine once didn't like the way the lawn mower was acting. She poured gas on it and then shot it full of holes before blowing it up.

once she came to my house came in and proceded to physically fight me. She told the Judge the wind blowed her in the house.LOL! Crazy but true all true!!
This has been an on-going thing for years. Just because we wouldn't let our teenage son go and hang out with her daily while her husband was at work. She is slowly driving herself crazy though! Better her then me! We have been to court three times and are going back again. What is this Judge waiting on!?!

Posted by: v-marie| April 28, 2009 at 11:12 AM




Pink Sneakers Productions and TLC are currently casting for a new documentary series entitled “Life Chronicles: I hate my neighbor”.

Here is some more info on the project:
"Life Chronicles" aims to inspire and/or enlighten others by relaying the personal experiences of those facing exceptional circumstances or coping with life-altering events in a true documentary-style format. Each show intends to tackle a different life-altering topic, including an episode dedicated to feuding with neighbors. We're interested in exploring each story through a personal perspective and show how feuding with your neighbor affects you on a daily basis.

I'd like to thank you in advance for sharing your story with us!

In the meantime, feel free to check out some of the programming on the TLC network, a division of Discovery. They do a lot of documentary programming:
http://tlc.discovery.com

Pink Sneakers has also produced various episodes of MTV's True Life series:
http://www.mtv.com/ontv/dyn/truelife/series.jhtml

Thank you so much for your time!
cbunch@pinksneakers.net

Posted by: TLC Casting| March 17, 2009 at 10:54 AM




I am totally on the same page .We had a neighbor,that so called himself the neighborhood watch guy. When i first bought my home 11yrs. ago i had finally made it back to my home town after being gone for 12 yrs. with my first husband. Long story short my new love and my two children in tow,every thing was great for 3yrs. Well this guy and i parted ways i had purchased the home so now alone no...... child support kept up my cleaning service then i met another man 3wks later we were married his reputation was not the per say best from his past,also he was a jersey man that was desperately implanted here or he would nt have lived so long in N.J..This so called nice neighborhood watch guy totally did every thing in his power to make us even as miserable as our hometowns finest especially the rookies ticket after tickets well him being his out standing citizen he totally ran us down so much his friends @ the police station &his crooked members of the hall were constantly calling the code enforcement i mean every week one stupid violation they could find ie: above ground pool had to be taken down twice the fence blew down along with 1/2 my house so on &on the make shift one wasn't nice enough the new one was 1/2inch to low i finally lost his battle the hurricanes &insurance taking1yr&1/2 to pay just enough to fix to code we were sold to another mortgage. co 2 days after the storms and i was unknowingly went from a fixed rate to adjustable 676.00a mo. to 1.575.00 & thanks to my once nice neighbors to code this cops this blah blah blah...................Whats happened to love thy neighbors helping each other out in our darkest hour?Shameful is what our fellow men have become!!!!!!!.We stay to our business but every neighborhood got to have one busybody & believe me my words are definitely censored..Keep the faith bros &sisters their judgement day will come!!!! ID just for once would love to have that birds eye view every once in a while RIGHT?...PEACE DEA IN NSB FL.NATIVE BY THE WAY THE NEIGHBOR WAS A $$$$TRANSPLANT ONE OF MANY THAT ARE CHANGING OUR ONCE SWEET HUMBLE SMALL TOWN ....

Posted by: Dea| February 25, 2009 at 09:14 PM




Our neighborhood is nice and quiet. The dirt road that runs behind our house isn't. There's a bunch of kids that live on the street behind us that ride ATV's all day and then they get the bright idea of putting eggs and hot dog franks into condoms, tying them up and tossing them over our fence. I guess they think this is funny. My 3 yr old son loves to play outside and I think it is ridiculous that I have to go out and do a total back yard surveillance before he can go out there. Our entire yard has a 6 ft. board fence around it and yet these jerks get enjoyment out of throwing nasty things into our yard. This has been going on for a year and it is getting very old. I have tried to catch them, but they are clever and manage to do the deed when we're sleeping or gone somewhere. I want to try fake security cameras, but I wonder if that will even stop them. They seem like the kind that has no responsibility and have no respect for other's property. I wish I could tape them and scare them senseless so they will never come near my yard again.

Posted by: Kari| February 02, 2009 at 04:50 PM




We have a next door neighbor who we have been great neighbors with for over 6 years. Four months ago her daughter babysat for us and my husband didn't walk her home to her front door (which is literally less then ten feet from our front door). The next thing we knew she called the police on my husband for moving his truck from the front of our house to the back accusing him of leaving the children home alone. She then filed three false charges to CPS accusing us of that, locks on our doors and no booster seats in our car which we are not required to have. She then went to our neighbors and slandered us telling them that we leave our children home alone and lock our front door so they cannot get in the house that way. She started screaming at me in my carport one day accusing me of leaving my kids home alone and threatened my husband that she is watching us and having us watched. She has slandered us, threatened us, harassed us and filed false charges. Any advice on what we should do about her? She is literally off her rocker here and she is one of these people who thinks she can do whatever she wants and get away with it.

Posted by: Jane| January 24, 2009 at 01:01 PM




My daughter was walking my dog on a leash, got loose and bit another dog. The dog needed no stitches or sutures but they brought him to the vet anyway. We paid the 69 dollar bill with a 100 dollar bill, got no change and this man is insisting we put our dog down. He was rude, offensive and stood on our property demanding the money. I in turn called him and a-hole behind the closed door of my home while he was standing on my front porch looking into my front window. He heard and said he would make our lives a living helll. What do you do with neighbor's like this?

Posted by: Maria| January 04, 2009 at 08:01 PM




Seriously people, My "FORMER" neighbors are still harrassing me a year after I moved away. I need a little sympathy tonight and I will tell you all just how disturded my ex-neighbors are. First, I asked them to be please keep it down because they lived upstairs from me and the never sleep. When I asked they made vulgar references about my anatomy and threatened to throw me down the stairs (two female "partners") if I ever came back up. It sounded bizarre because I had asked them politely before about the noise and they denied it. I ended up tranfering apartments shortly after that. This happened a year ago and since then I have had my house and car vandalized and lets just say these "Ladies" have a few sexual hang ups...(open condoms on my car/porch, sex toys placed on my car window as well as used tampons!!!). I forgot to mention that they are aware that I have an 11yr old daughter and this morning I opened my front door to see the most disturbing thing ever... Childrens underwear with a small animal fetus inside!!!!! I know, It's as hard to type as it is to read. Worst part is that they wrote my kids name inside!! I am deeply upset and after spending nearly six hours today checking my options at the court the judge said if I can't prove it then there is just nothing that can be done. My concern now is catching my nieghbors now because they will do it again (it always happens between 1-4am every two months) it has escalated to the point that they are trying to terrorize my eleven year old because she saw it too if only for a few seconds. The Cops came and he told my wife that is the most disturbing thing he has seen in his twelve years. Oh and by the way the cops told my to file with the court... go figure. Here is some advice for anyone in any type of harrassment situation... Get a security camera($200) and a usb adapter($35) so you can connect it to your PC for 24hr online survelience($5). If they do it once they will do it again so save yourself the emotional distress and catch em' now, don't wait like I did! My family is superstressed and so am I (father/student/employee/husband) I can only blame myself for underestimating the cruelty that some people are happy to inflict on others. Maybe after I catch them on camera someone will believe me. Then HOPEFULLY I can feel that my family and I are safe and we can have our peace of mind back(PRICELESS!). Again this is a TRUE STORY... help!

Posted by: Annon...| December 18, 2008 at 08:50 PM




Tell me if I wanted to have a new Ordinance adopted by my Town as their Ordinance,such as if a person has surveillance cameras attached to their home the ordinance would state that the cameras could only be used to monitor the property where the cameras are installed and not their neighbors or their neighbors property!

Posted by: Nikki T| December 01, 2008 at 04:50 PM




Moved into a new house. Initially the neighbors were somewhat overly nice. Then I realized that they were drunks. I started to keep my distance. The wife took this very personally and vandalized my property. She just never lets up. Recently, she "decorated" her house for the holidays with very bright Xmas decorations and left them on for 12 hours glaring into my windows. How do I deal with someone so childish and immature? I want to be left alone but with this person, if you're not a friend, you're her worst enemy. HELP!

Posted by: Mimi| November 28, 2008 at 12:12 PM




My neighbors constantly call the cops and accuses my children of throwing rocks at their house late at night. They also have a thing for TROs, when one runs out they start a new action. Lately they did that and make up charges. I just drive out of my driveway and down the road because my daughter thought she saw her friend. Next thing I know, while I'm waiting for my children to get out of school, I'm being hand-cuffed and pulled out of my vehicle and driven to the cell block. I wait an hour and am finally charged with terroristic threatening. My neighbor said I tried to run the son of a bitch over. Of course here, you don't say anything to the cops, you're automatically quilty. The COPS automatically turn the neighbors words into gold because we refuse to talk without a lawyer present. Isn't that our right? The neighbors claims in cour that this has been going on since my husband's mother and stuff but yet they take it out on my family. Oh, they say ignore and they'll go to the next. NOt these people. This has been going on for 13 years. They charged my daughters with harassment from when they were age 11 years old and 8 years old. They taunt my children and when they talk back they video tape the response. We just wait till it goes to court and they wonder why we seem to be getting off of the charges. They are never there in court. I have documents and have been keeping them. The last restraining order was comical. They had the judge testifying for them. All they handed the judge was a paper with dates and the number of their police reports. The judge asked what were these numbers or what was each complaint for and they mentioned that it was to many to remember. They tell the judge that they have stress and diaries but they left it home. The funny part is that the judge granted them their stupid restraining order claiming that they had proven their case. It doesn't take long before the neighbor starts calling the cops on my son claiming all kinds of stuff but luckily my children goes out with a video camera because we're being surveilled 24/7 by these people. They even want us to pay for their stupid surveillance setup. My son stays at the youth center or after school because he has been hand-cuffed and been taken to the cell block. He's 14 years old. There is so much that is bottled up because I figure you ignore it it'll go away but my children are like MOM why can't we just lie like them. Make up any kind of complaint. Stop being nice already. I tell them I'm not being nice, I don't want to be a criminal, even if the cops think I'm one. I'm still worried that I may be going to jail for something I haven't done. For literally driving down the road. I'm waiting jury trial and it's driving me crazy. I want to protect my family from constantly being accused of things they haven't done. The cops ask me why these people do the things they do, I tell I don't know or care to know. They have issues they gotta deal with not me.

Posted by: MizzyLee| November 14, 2008 at 02:04 PM




neighbor blows leaves into my yard to keep off her fence.

Posted by: Mary| November 13, 2008 at 05:58 PM




I have a neighbor who has put up three cameras one looking at my porch and the other two pointing directly into my windows

Posted by: Mariah| July 26, 2008 at 11:19 AM




I live in Europe where there are certain "quiet" times. They include 2-5 in the afternoon and after 11 at night. My upstairs neighbour has her kid running around upstairs and playing ball or drags around her furniture at all hours. I have a small child and want a little bit of quiet during those times.
To show how rude she is when I came home from the hospital after I gave birth they decided to do renovating and were using a jackhammer *all* day!

Posted by: Helen S| July 14, 2008 at 08:13 AM




Help, my neighbor has called the police on me twice saying that my dogs are running wild and they are deficating on her lawn. It is all untrue! Now she is sueing me. This is one of her ways of harrassing me. She has harrassed me w/stares and name callings for three years. What do I do?

Posted by: mary dorazio| July 07, 2008 at 12:18 AM




my husband has a wood working shop in our garage and we disagree about the times when the shop should remain free of noise. I am worried that our neighbors are getting upset if he starts sawing late at night or too early in the morning. Please offer me a suggestion so I can present this to my husband. I feel that 7am till 10pm are ample time to work in the shop and that 10pm - 7am should be for quieter activities. HELP!

Posted by: morrisbinny| July 01, 2008 at 11:27 AM




Well the Good Town of Eddington Maine Code officer tells Me that My neighbor can erect a fence on a disputed property line. The judgement as to where the property lines are between myself and my neighbor is in the hands of Honorable Judge Helm and yet the code officer for Eddington states my neighbor can build a fence, needs no permit, can build on the line no setback as close as 4 ft from my house and can leave 18 inch holes in the ground with no flagging.
Isn't the Town supose to protect the community from harm? If a person gets hurt by falling in one of the 3 holes the neighbor put in the ground the code officer's answer was sue, sue, sue

Posted by: Nic T| May 24, 2008 at 02:37 PM




Our Neighbours wanted us to by a new cement driveway that would stretch across both of our driveways. It was too costly for us (twice our budget) so we declined. We ent away for a while on a trip and when we returned they had paved their side and more than two feet over our property line with their cement. Their driveway looked huge and comes well over onto our ide. It is also a third of a foot higher (above) thatn our driveway. We have been experiencing some financial diifficulty so fixing the matter was delayed. Iwould like to fix it this summer (I will be starting a job) and am concerned about how they will react. I don't want to confront them but I also can't stand the sight of it. I also don't understand how they could just go ahead and do sucha thing when we weren't home? any comments or suggestions?

Posted by: Lydia| May 22, 2008 at 08:49 PM




Our Neighbours wanted us to by a new cement driveway that would stretch across both of our driveways. It was too costly for us (twice our budget) so we declined. We ent away for a while on a trip and when we returned they had paved their side and more than two feet over our property line with their cement. Their driveway looked huge and comes well over onto our ide. It is also a third of a foot higher (above) thatn our driveway. We have been experiencing some financial diifficulty so fixing the matter was delayed. Iwould like to fix it this summer (I will be starting a job) and am concerned about how they will react. I don't want to confront them but I also can't stand the sight of it. I also don't understand how they could just go ahead and do sucha thing when we weren't home? any comments or suggestions?

Posted by: Lydia| May 22, 2008 at 08:48 PM




I have a neighbor that installed a patio a few year back and the resulting dust and debris killed 9 our our newly planted evergreen trees. That worked out as the contractor paid for our trees. However when we approached the neighbor they had a attitude that we even approached them about it. Recently that same neighbor installed part fo their irrigation system on part of our yard. This time they bypassed the HOA/ARC design review process which includes obtaining signatures from adjacent neighbors. Then they had an attitude when we asked them to pay for the cost to repair the part of our yard they damaged. We are considering suing them for the cost of the repairs and the court cost.

Posted by: Skip| May 14, 2008 at 02:34 PM




Parking pass the yellow curb line, so it make it difficult to pull into and out of my driveway.

Posted by: VJ| February 04, 2008 at 04:05 PM




We moved into our dream home and our neighbor is a retired USMC soldier and his wife. They are very abrasive. In the past 2 years, they have accosted our guests for parking in the cove on the side of the street "in front of their house", which the lawn actually belongs the the other neighbor; they called me out early on a sunday morning complaining that the dirt I had washed off my driveway was in the street...and they didn't want to drag it into their house; they confronted our guests who were parked in our driveway because their cars stuck out a bumper length beyond the curb; and they complained because one of our friends' truck dripped about 5 drops of oil on my driveway... she didn't like the way it looked. The last straw was when they accosted the surveyer as to what he was doing and why we wanted to put up a fence! She is an obsessive neat freak who scrubbs her driveway on her hands and knees, had her husband pull weeds by hand in the whole yard, and paint the grout lines on their brick house by hand. Just to keep from having yet another confrontation, we put the fence about 1-2 feet on our side of the property line. What do I do? I make sure the property markers that the subdivision put in permanently are kept weeded and in good repair... and I sit and watch the bag worms eat their evergreen bushes. I don't dare do anything like complain because he threatened to shoot a kid for "ding dog ditching"...(you know, ringing the doorbell in the middle of the night and running). We are very quiet, no loud parties, no teenage parties, no trash or debris in the yard. We do have about 6 people over to work out a couple of times a week in our garage (with the door closed). My husband is an x-cop and says that we are doing nothing illegal and to ignore them. I can't, so I pray daily for them to win the lottery and move away.

Posted by: Carol| November 30, 2007 at 08:45 PM




we live in an early 70's townhouse that has paper thin walls. Our neighbour lady can be a nice person to you face. We have had issues trying to get our five year old to sleep in the past few months, he stays awake from as ealy as 6 am till midnight. Now I understand that she has a justifyable complaint when he is awake talking in his room which is beside hers, and we have sincerely apoligized to her about this on several accounts. However, it seems as though she has used this issue to complain about every single noise we make. Yesterday she came over to my house and tore a strip out of my wife because I took a shower at 11 o'clock when I got home from work. Her arguement was that if we can take a shower in between 8am and 7pm then we should'nt be taking one. She has banged on our walls atleast 2 times a week since we got there. She no claims that our landlords are working with her to get us evicted. I came to the conclusion that because we live in a three bedroom and she lives in a two, and because she came right out to say that she wants to have our three bedroom because it has been the most renovated in the past couple years ; that she wants to get us out so she can move in. She once told us that we need to tie our kids into the basement and only let them out to feed them. She said that "kids are ment to be seen not heard". I understand when she is frustrated when our 5 year old is up at 12 o'clock, because it drives me nuts too. However; when someone comes over and tells you that you don't have the right to have a tv or a stereo and that you are ment to be outside all day and read books quietly in the evenings as she say's "like normal people" lmao, you know that she has an issue. To think she has a 12 year old who by my standards is just as noisy as we are. I feel like at this point that I should be able to file some sort of harassment charges against her just so that she can see that not everyone goes to sleep at 7:30 like her and her son do, and that while we are sorry for being a disturbance to her, we still aren't going to have to stop living just because she says so. My be my kid is noisy but when your neighbour pounds on the wall hard enough that pictures fall of the bookshelves when I am reading a book to my kid at 8:00 when we put him to bed you know there is some sort of problem with her. Thats just a third of our issues that we have been having.l

Posted by: shaggy | November 30, 2007 at 12:17 PM




My neighbour has a cat and we share a hallway. She always lets the cat run around in the hallway. #1 I am severly allergic #2 It has the tendency to run into my apartment and I can't run after it because of my allergy.

It's not fun. I usually try to stay at my bf's house as much as possible to avoid the entire situation.

Posted by: Joyce| November 10, 2007 at 11:52 PM






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