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What's your biggest complaint about your mate? His once cute obsession with football? Her objection to your need for time alone? Share what your mate does that drives you crazy by posting a comment, below.
Posted by: Cece Meyers| December 28, 2007 at 04:45 PM He's bipolar, diagnosed after we were married, 5 years ago. Everything he does irks me! He's not the man I thought I married. My husband always forgets to turn things off. Especially his bathroom light. I know he knows he does that ALLLLLL the time, so I'm going to quit pointing it out now and hopefully he'll do it on his own. At least it's gotten down to JUST the bathroom light. :) he doesn't - he is a daily blessing to my life and a very exciting guy to be married to. He irks me to no end by leaving trash on the dresser when the trash can is right beside it, or throwing his clothes beside the hamper. His idea of fishing for a couple of hours turns into 9 hours and I'm left dealing with everything that was supposed to have been done by the two of us. Then he comes home and does nothing to help after I've spent the day running around trying to get the items completed. And I don't get a thank you .....ever. he insists that I ask hime first if we can have company, this includes our children and grand-children and sometimes he makes company feel like they are intruding. I am always criticized for my faults. I put the toilet seat down. I wash clothes, do the dishes and keep the house clean without being asked. But those are things expected of me. I get in trouble for things I never knew I was supposed to be doing. And when that issue is solved, I get in trouble for another problem. I live with a perfectionist and I feel like we will never reach a happy medium ground. He's hooked on reality shows and watches at least 3 hours of TV per day... when we started dating he said he really only watched baseball and the weather channel. He doesn't put the bathroom bowl seat down. I even went as far as posting a reminder on the seat. It didn't work. I said it was inconsider of me and he didn't agree. His penchant for making snide remarks disguised as "jokes." It drives me crazy when my husband and I are watching TV and I speak to him and he doesn't respond. However, he can speak to me and get an immediate response. I guess men really don't multi-task very well. She manages her world using 'Post-It' notes...everywhere. |
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My husband normally is an excellent dad, and works very hard at his job. But in this one area he is horrible: He has never supported any of my efforts to assign daily chores for our 6 children to do. He believes that I should be picking up after the kids and that if they see me pick up stuff they'll naturally do the same. It is not as simple as that. I can pick up stuff until I am blue in the face, and I often do. It isn't catching on. I have come up with lists and schedules and reward systems but their dad always lets them off the hook and says 'they shouldn't have to do that'. "I;m not going to fight with them to get their work done". He says that for him it is 'too much trouble' for them to watch him change the oil in the car or fix something around the house. Or, if they do actually do something he'll turn around and PAY them! Needless to say, they know nothing of how to do anything their dad could have taught them--except for golf, and they expect payment for what they do. My kids have always wanted to 'help' me cook and of course it is much easier to do it myself but that is not the point. They need to learn how to cook, and clean and keep their stuff organized.
Now we live in a very cluttered house and my kids don't think they should have to pick up after themselves. Only when my husband is angry does he insist the kids clean up their stuff and then he yells at me first.
I have started watching those organization shows on t.v. and am very impressed with the way they enlist the entire family in the clean up process. I really need a professional organizer to come to my home to help me get it organized. Or...I need to become a professional organizer myself and learn to do it for myself and others.