I would go for my own vow. Really coming from the bottom of my heart, mind and soul. And this would make my wedding unforgettable and special for the rest of my life.

Instead of writing your own, think about pledging your vows from memory using the traditional vows. This is what my husband and I did, and was probably my most favorite part of the whole day. They are likely some of the most important words you'll ever utter, so why not have them committed to memory... we spoke from our hearts, and I completely remember this part of the ceremony, unlike so many memorable events that just become a blur afterwards. It is a nice twist to just reciting the traditional vows, without the pressure of penning your own.

When we got married 6 years ago, we created simple (but meaningful for us) wedding vows in a "repeat after me" style. Well my hubby was so moved by it all he choked up completely! He finally said the words, and the church broke out in applause. It's a great memory now. However, thinking back, there is NO way he would have been able to memorize a vow or deliver anything very complex. So...I think you decide on the vows based on who both of you are - and remember, it will be an emotional day.

When I was a little bit younger I wanted to write my own vows, but since then I've attended a few weddings and the thing I really noticed was that you can't even hear the bride and groom speaking! I'm a writer so writing my own vows could sound corny, so that adds to why I wouldn't want to write my own.

I'm going the traditional route.

I'd like to write our own vows, but my man isn't comfortable with that. I think we're going to stick to the traditional vows, but then have nice speeches during the reception.

We're writing our own vows but having our "officiant" aka my fiance's best friend - read them. I'm sure I'll be crying so me reading them isn't really an option.

My husband and I wrote our own, a little in advance so our priest could help us look them over and make sure they were OK for our ceremony. (If you're having a church wedding, some priests/ministers will want to see your vows in advance.) He read his first, and if the priest hadn't lent him a microphone, no one would have heard them - he was very choked up. Somehow, even though I'm the weeper in our relationship, that freed me up, so I could read mine out in a clear, loud voice that everyone in the church could hear. You don't want them to be so emotional that you embarrass your guests, but the personal touch of writing your own vows can be very moving.

My husband and I are about to celebrate our one-month anniversary. For our wedding vows, we took the language we recited to each other from our ketubah, the traditional Jewish wedding document. It was not the typical "for better or for worse" wording, but we didn't entirely create it ourselves, either. It worked out nicely--except that during the ceremony I totally forgot my lines and burst into giggles.

We thought about writing our own. Our Officiant actually has customized the traditional vows for us after several meetings and we each had to write a letter telling why we wanted to be married. He's not telling us all of it until the wedding. We're looking forward to the surprise. I don't think I would be able to memorize anything very long. let alone say it in front of so many people. I know I'll be too choked up and too nervous. Maybe the key is to practice?? I think it's great if you can say your own, but it's not for us.

My guy and I are in our 40's so we will be doing a prenuptial (which i have no problem with) However I don't have much of anything to take to the table that would really warrant a prenup. I have been a single working mom that has been raising babies. so I thought I would take something (on paper) to him from my heart. Nothing that he needs to sigh or anything. Do you think this could potentially make him feel like a complete idiot. That would not at all be my intent and I wouldn't do it if I thought it would.

Does anyone have any comments on this as to how I could speak to him from my heart without minimizing his intent and values.

we are going with both. since i was a little girl playing wedding with my dolls ive always wanted to say them "traditional" words, but i also want it to be personal. i want to tell him exacly how he makes me feel everyday and for the rest of our lives.