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Happiness Tips from 1820: Still Helpful
Posted on Apr 17, 2008 2:00:00 AM  |  By GretchenRubin

QuillpenIn 1820, English writer Sydney Smith wrote a letter to his unhappy friend, Lady Morpeth. He offered his tips for how to be happy – and his suggestions are as sound now as they were practically 200 years ago.



"1st. Live as well as you dare.


2nd. Go into the shower-bath with a small quantity of water at a temperature low enough to give you a slight sensation of cold, 75 or 80 degrees.


3rd. Amusing books.


4th. Short views of human life - not further than dinner or tea.
5th. Be as busy as you can.


6th. See as much as you can of those friends who respect and like you.


7th. And of those acquaintances who amuse you.


8th. Make no secret of low spirits to your friends, but talk of them freely - they are always worse for dignified concealment.


9th. Attend to the effects tea and coffee produce upon you.


10th. Compare your lot with that of other people.


11th. Don’t expect too much from human life - a sorry business at the best.


12th. Avoid poetry, dramatic representations (except comedy), music, serious novels, melancholy, sentimental people, and everything likely to excite feeling or emotion, not ending in active benevolence.


13th. Do good, and endeavour to please everybody of every degree.


14th. Be as much as you can in the open air without fatigue.


15th. Make the room where you commonly sit gay and pleasant.


16th. Struggle by little and little against idleness.


17th. Don’t be too severe upon yourself, or underrate yourself, but do yourself justice.


18th. Keep good blazing fires.


19th. Be firm and constant in the exercise of rational religion.


20th. Believe me, dear Lady Georgiana."


What I like about this list is that it’s specific (even as to what temperature a bath should be!), manageable, and loving. I can imagine his friend putting this advice to work, right away. Now I’m off to work on #15, to make my office “gay and pleasant”.



Is there anything you’d add to the list? I'd add: The days are long, but the years are short.



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Great tips from way back, but I agree: They are still good. I must say I like the first one: "Live as well as you dare". Now, there's something to think about!

Posted by: Buzz| April 17, 2008 at 05:56 AM




Avoid music and poetry? This guy is a jackass.

Posted by: kidgibeht| April 17, 2008 at 03:38 PM




Sounds sort of like the doctrine of a modern day cult.

Posted by: Jeff| April 17, 2008 at 04:20 PM




I would make the room where you commonly sit gay and pleasant but my home owner's association won't allow it

Posted by: Chris| April 17, 2008 at 04:38 PM




"12th. Avoid poetry, dramatic representations (except comedy), music, serious novels, melancholy, sentimental people, and everything likely to excite feeling or emotion, not ending in active benevolence. "


Glad you think that one is sound advice. Way to promote illiteracy in the 21st century.

Posted by: Einar| April 17, 2008 at 05:31 PM




I'd add: A mind stretched by a new idea can never return to its original demension.

Posted by: Debra T| April 17, 2008 at 05:44 PM




Oi, he means to avoid stuff without happy endings (active benevolence), not avoid poetry and music altogether.

I think it's the "rational religion" bit that would stir up the most argument today.

Posted by: SmartLX| April 17, 2008 at 06:42 PM




"rational religion" doesn't make sense to me. But perhaps it just stopped existing since this was written.

Posted by: Brian| April 18, 2008 at 08:38 AM




I would add 'Avoid financial debts but treasure emotional and intellectual ones'. Nothing good comes of owing money, but what I owe to my parents, grandparents and teachers could never be repaid. Only treasured and passed on.

Posted by: Jehanne| April 18, 2008 at 09:56 AM




nice advice showing people don't change much over time, you could probably give that same list to anyone in the last thousand years (adjusting for technology) and they'd find about 15 things on that list they'd agree with.
Rich Poley

Posted by: Rich Poley| April 20, 2008 at 01:47 PM




Use your vacation time!
I actually just posted about this on my blog: superiorhabitat.wordpress.com

I can't tell you how many people I know who don't take advantage of their paid vacation time. Relax, plan a vacation, travel abroad. We talk about an economic recession, but with a little planning and preparation throughout the year you are totally able to take if not one large vacation, a few mini-breaks. Go alone, bring some friends, a loved one...heck, leave the kids at home and take a mini-honeymoon!

If YOU don't take care of yourself, who will? YOU DESERVE A BREAK!

Posted by: Ms. Superiority| April 23, 2008 at 10:36 AM






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