Woodrow Wilson was the president who invented the formal press conference—and immediately was regretted it, according to a story we read recently on CNN. After newspapers printed rumors of Wilson’s daughter’s romantic liaisons, the president declared: ”This must stop! On the next offense, I shall do what any other indignant father would do. I will punch the man who prints it […]
Recent Posts By Michelle Slatalla
‘Why Is Job Hunting So Dehumanizing?’
Here’s the question Fran Hopkins asks in a column on AOL: “How have I gotten to the point in this process where I expect to be treated like a piece of meat and accept it? “There’s very little human interaction in the job-application process,” Hopkins writes. “You email your resume to hiring@abcfirm.com or painstakingly complete a time-consuming, excruciatingly detailed online […]
World-Class Manners for Olympians (and Spectators)
Spotted recently in the Chicago Tribune: a guide, on the eve of the Summer Olympics, to understanding (and emulating) “all the customs, quirks and idiosyncrasies” of British etiquette: 1. Greetings. A firm handshake is welcome. Other forms of touching, less so. “Social kissing is, however, becoming increasingly popular in Britain, but it is by no means an accepted norm,” writes […]
Engagement Party: “No Gifts, Please”
A reader named Claudia writes, “I have been invited to an engagement party and the invitation states ‘no gifts, your presence is our gift.’ Do I go without something, or what would be appropriate to take?” It is never required to take a gift to an engagement party, which traditionally is an occasion for both sides of the family and […]
Smooching and Groping in Public
“I have a long-term friend, a 50-year-old bachelor who just started dating a girl, who is nearly 50. When I visit them, they frequently start making out and clawing at each other, sometimes even sharing the same spot on the couch with her on top of him,” writes a reader named SocialB. SocialB finds the behavior disgusting: “I have to leave […]
Your Cousin’s Grandchildren are Beautiful. Period.
This week’s question comes from KidSundance, who is worried about what to say at an upcoming family reunion if shown a photo of a cousin’s grandchildren: “I am white. I am not a racist, and am very open-minded about race, race relations, etc. “So, please understand that this is a question about etiquette in which, as always, my concern is for […]
Airplane Etiquette: Please Stop Kicking My Seat
With the summer travel season underway, it’s likely you’re going to sit near a passenger who plays music too loudly or kicks your seat or refuses to shift a bag in an overhead bin to make room for yours. How would you respond? Results to a recent Travel Leaders Group survey of 800 people, reported recently in the New York […]
Party Food With a Pit: Now What?
As we head into the heart of the summer barbecue season, here’s one of those perennially tricky etiquette situations we’re all going to have to confront: “How do you properly eat an olive with a seed in the middle—or a cherry—when you are at a party?” wrote a reader named MJ. That’s actually a great question, MJ. There was a […]
Nothing Personal, I Just Don’t Want to Sit Next to You
We could all use a little extra legroom. But is it rude to move away from a seat mate to get some? “I have witnessed this behavior frequently and can’t tell which category it falls into,” wrote a reader named Caitlin. “When the bus or train is packed full, every seat is taken. But when a good number of people […]












