Whether you’re dating all the time—or haven’t dated in years—you know the age-old rule: The man is supposed to pick up the check. But how many people actually believe in it—and abide by it—especially in the age of Leaning In (and you know, gender equality)?
According to a recent study titled “Who Pays for Dates? Following versus Challenging Conventional Gender Norms,” 25 percent of couples split dating costs within the first month of their relationship, but in the other 75 percent of couples, the man pays. In fact, in a quarter of couples, the man continues to pay for dates a whopping 6 months into the relationship!
But that doesn’t mean the men are happy about it. In fact, 44% of men said they would stop dating a woman who never pays, and 64% of men said they believed women should contribute to dating expenses. As for ladies: While 57% say they offer to pay, most of that percentage hope the man won’t actually accept.
What do you think? Should we set a new rule for splitting dating costs? Has the time finally come? Here’s what our etiquette columnist, Catherine Newman, has to say on the topic.