Do you let the kids see you argue?

September 14, 2011 | By | Comments (7)

This morning my husband and I had a bit of a disagreement over the state of organization in our household. And when I say disagreement, I mean that, rather than calmly discussing the issue, we yelled, made ugly faces at each other and slammed doors.

Okay, I’m the one who slammed the doors. Emphatically.

On the other side of the counter from this display of parental immaturity were our two children looking aghast at our behavior. Walking up to the bus with my 9-year old son, we talked about why mommy and daddy argue. I explained that we, just like he and his sister, sometimes hit our limit and that after we’re done yelling, we often have the chance to discuss what made us so angry and what the could do to make things better.

I am sure that, for our marriage, letting these feelings out and discussing our issues is better than letting myself stew. What I’m not so sure about is whether or not we’re causing irreparable damage to my children’s psyche, or if we’re demonstrating how arguments occur even in a somewhat healthy relationship.

So tell me dear readers, as kindly as possible, do you let your children see you argue?