To Invite or Not to Invite?

May 19, 2011 | By | Comments (0)

My brother and I are planning a summer weekend in the Catskills for our friends in late June. We’ve been talking about it for months but, with only a few weeks left until the date, we’re finally getting around to figuring out all the logistics.


We have a place to stay and we’ve discussed everything from transportation from the city to food and drinks. There’s only one minor detail we have yet to sort – the guest list.




Even though I love to entertain, my blood pressure starts to rise when it's time to think about who to invite. It’s true that the right guests can make or break a party – you want your event to have a convivial atmosphere. But, for me, finding kind and fun people to invite isn’t the problem.


Instead, the burden is limiting my invitees. If you can only include a few friends how do you choose who to extend an invitation to and who to leave out? And what about significant others – do you include someone’s girlfriend or boyfriend no matter how little you may know about them?


In our case, we're capping the invites at 10 each, which means I’ll have to do some careful planning. Here are two ways I plan to focus on enjoying a relaxing weekend with friends rather than worry about the guest list:

-Forget pleasing everyone. I’m going to stick with my core group of friends and leave out the ones I don’t see on a regular basis. I’ll plan a time to connect with them at a later date.
-Omit the plus one. This time, I simply don’t have the capacity to invite anyone I don’t know very well.


Another good strategy is to put your guests into groups of yes, no and maybe and then include the yes’s and begin adding maybe’s, provided there is room.


Do you struggle with who to invite to your events? I’d love to hear about your strategies for planning your own guest lists. 


[photo from William Arthur Stationery on Flickr]