One of the things that surprised me most about my happiness project was that when I resolved to “Find more fun,” it wasn’t easy for me to figure out what I found fun. For example, it took me some real self-examination to acknowledge that one of my passions is children’s literature. Now my children’s literature reading group is one of the great joys of my life.
My understanding of fun increased dramatically when I realized one of my most important Secrets of Adulthood: “What’s fun for other people may not be fun for me — and vice versa.” For example, activities that many people find fun that I don’t find fun include skiing, drinking wine, doing crossword puzzles, shopping, going to concerts, cooking…I needed to think about what I found fun, not what was considered “fun” by most people.
I’d love to hear about people’s experiences about fun. What do you find fun? Is it something a lot of people find fun, like golf, or something more unusual, like cultivating bonsai plants? Did you always know that this activity was fun for you, or did it take a while to figure it out? Am I the only one who has trouble staying in touch with the question: what is fun? Once you’ve identified your source of fun, how do you make time for it in your life?
The days are long, but the years are short.