I never wanted to be the cheese when we played The Farmer in The Dell. Why? Because the cheese had to stand alone. I didn’t think that was fun when everyone else seemed to be part of a the group. In fact, when they circled around me I viewed as sought of a taunt. Think of it as the precursor to the “in crowd” for the preschool set. From that point on it seems to me that we have been socialized to believe that being alone is a bad thing. That’s because for many people alone=lonely and somehow unworthy. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
Being comfortable in your own company is a sign that you’re grown. You don’t need the distractions of the outside world—you know like idle chatter, gossip and negativity. And you also have no fear of yourself or your thoughts. (That’s the reason lots of people keep moving when it would benefit them more to stand still). You can hear the still silent voice within, you can also do a bit of self-examination (which should be without recrimination). And when you’re at peace with the process, your imagination will have free reign. I’m all for brainstorming with a group but i get my best ideas when I’m alone. I dare to dream, to set forth a vision that I can act upon or refine when I have time to reflect. Most of all I have the space to be totally honest. I am not saying that we don’t need the support of our family and friends. They offer great feedback, understanding and most of all love. But nobody should know you better than you know yourself. You need to be the cheese once in a while to affirm that connection. You’ll be surprised what you’ll find out about one of the most important people in your life, yourself.
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